Sometimes when I sit down to write I don’t really have something in mind to write about, to be honest. So I sit at my “blank canvas,” filter through the events of the day, and search for a learning lesson I had or something joyful. I was doing this while sitting with my girls, helping them with homework, thinking “man….I should have just continued homeschooling with all of the homework I have to help with every day!” I’ve started to dread homework time, probably just as much as my kids do. This is a mind-set I need to change if I ever expect them to be willing to complete their homework in the coming years.
However, that isn’t the topic I’m going to talk about. As I was sitting here, wanting to be done with homework and not being very joyful about it, I was reminded of a thought I had while sitting in the car line. It also wasn’t a very cheerful thought and it certainly was not proof that I was being open to God or thinking the way I should have.
Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 1 Corinthians 13:7
There are many times when I assume or “predict” the reactions or responses of others before they are even given the chance to prove me wrong. I force myself to be in a specific mindset and when the other person does exactly what I expected them to, I’m usually left feeling either let down or boastful. By assuming or placing expectations on others I am not showing true love towards them.
In the times when I am assuming the worst, I am not allowing God to move in mine or their lives so that our relationship may grow. I force myself to form a negative mindset towards the other person and eventually become uncaring and unattached. When I assume the best and the person delivers as I expected, then I become confident in myself and I take the credit away from where it is due. It was not of myself that made it happen. They didn’t react the way they did because of what I did or because I “deserved” it.
Today I was assuming something, not necessarily negative, but it was a thought that didn’t bring me joy. It was more of disappointment. I made myself feel disappointed in something that never happened. Although it may end up playing out exactly as I predicted, I need to stop assuming and placing myself and God into this box. I need to remain open to His possible moving in the lives of not only myself but also in others, or I may completely miss it when it does happen.
Remain in the loving mindset. The mindset that will bear ALL things and that will remain hopeful and patient in God’s timing and design. When approaching others, go in without expectations or assumptions. No one wants to be judged before they’ve even opened their mouths or had a chance to. Allow them to be who God is moving them to be and let God do the work. Nothing of myself will bring Him glory, and it’s God who deserves ALL of the glory! It’s His design after all.
Tags: Acceptance, Assumptions, Closed, Design, Expectations, faith, God, Love, Open, Patience, Presume, Selfless, timing
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